…..…really bad about yourself. In fact, you’ve disliked, at times hated yourself, for as long as you can remember.
Sometimes you feel totally numb to your emotions. Other times, you get totally overwhelmed by them. Sometimes it’s so bad you totally lose control, hurting yourself or others in the wake of how intense it all feels.
For your whole life, you’ve had thoughts like
”No one really loves me.”
”I don’t deserve happiness.”
”I’m just bad.”
Maybe your parents were emotionally unavailable. Maybe it was the really difficult relationships with your siblings. Maybe you never quite fit in with peers. Maybe you’ve struggled to fit into society’s utterly unrealistic expectations on all of us.
But what you know, right now, is you’re hurting. It shouldn’t be this hard. You’re lonely and isolated and you don’t know how to manage it all.
Imagine a supportive online space where you can:
*learn new skills to actually break the patterns of the trauma
*show up in new and different ways without judgement
*practice being vulnerable and receiving others’ vulnerability
*receive support when it all feels too hard
*feel the warmth when you offer support
*be gently reminded of your healing goals on a regular basis
*have accountability to work on yourself and your healing
*gain a greater sense of control over your emotions and your life
*feel more confident and free to be yourself
*practice being kind and loving toward yourself
Healing relationship trauma is a lifelong journey, but you don’t have to be on it alone.
Folks in the ROAR Co.mmunity have relationship trauma, which has deeply affected our sense of self, our relationship to our emotions, and how we relate to others.
Like you, we’re bravely trying to navigate a different way. We’re committed to learning, growing, and above all, healing.
On Thursdays or Fridays, I’ll send a post with reflection questions and Tarot spread. These are inspired by nature, astrology, or themes that are coming up in my one-on-one work.
Monthly, I’ll send an essay on healing relationship trauma. These are inspired by community requests and questions, smashing the oppressors, and/or current events.
to support mindfulness, grounding, reflection and growth
*Safe Space & Container
to relax and inspire you
to help you reflect deeply.
Some of the most popular ones:
*A Letter To Your Younger Self
*When Not-Good-Enoughness Comes From Systems
*Building Your Love Vocabulary
available to paid subscribers
revisit skills and practices from past workshops on your time. Workshops include:
*Understanding and Regulating Your Nervous System
*Finding Safety on Your Healing Journey
available to paid subscribers
It’s an added bonus to my current therapy.
It got me thinking about what wellness means outside of physical wellness…I’m paying more attention to what kind of routine I want to develop for my own health.
I find myself going to the Co.mmunity instead of facebook. It’s just a more positive space.
It’s been nice having a dedicated space that is just focused on healing and self-awareness. Instagram and TikTok accounts are maybe doing that, but it's in the midst of all the other crap.
Being a part of a group where we were all there to grow and learn things is really good for me. It helps me remember it’s not just me. I’m not the only one struggling with this.
*want support between therapy sessions to help you stay focused on your growth goals
*are looking for a community of folks who are similarly invested in their healing and growth
*want to be on social media, but struggle with all the toxicity
*want access to healing resources and supports on-demand to use whenever you need
*like receiving and offering support online
*prefer to do their healing work all in-person or all individually
*can’t agree to the Co.mmunity Guidelines
What is shared here stays here. What is learned may leave here.
Be mindful when sharing potentially triggering information. Check in with your intentions.
Use content warnings so others have the information they need to care for themselves when engaging with your sharing.
Be mindful of the ways that systems of oppression show up in our sharing and interactions. Be open to learning around this.
Give yourself permission to take breaks and care for yourself as needed when exploring here. The post will still be here later.
If these agreements are not honored, community members will be given feedback and opportunity for repair. Community members can be removed from the community for patterns of interaction that do not uphold these agreements.
Participation in the ROAR Wellness Co.mmunity is not a substitute for mental health treatment. While participation in the ROAR Wellness Co.mmunity is intended to support your healing and growth, participation in the Co.mmunity does not make Ellen your therapist and she will not be diagnosing or treating you for any specific mental illnesses through your participation. Joining the Co.mmunity does not initiate a patient-therapist relationship, and Ellen will not provide individual or couples therapy services through the Co.mmunity.